By Daniela Degrassi
The love for music brought Kate and Jay together, who met through mutual friends. They are both musicians in Bad Bloom, a rock/shoegaze band (they just launched their Spotify channel, let’s give them some love!). Kate is the bassist/vocalist and Jay is the guitarist. It seemed right away like a match made in heaven since music wasn’t the only passion they shared. For over a decade, both had been leading a vegan lifestyle as animal and environmental rights activists.
So there was no question about it when Jay popped the question… planning a vegan wedding was discussed early on in their engagement. Kate shares more details of their wedding planning for our first real vegan wedding feature of 2020, featuring pictures from Cortney Armitage. “She is AMAZING and a wonderful human” quotes Kate “She is a band photographer, which is why we fell in love with her style”.
Kate, thank you for sharing your story. Were your families and friends supportive of you guys having a vegan wedding?
Yes, they were supportive. Both of our families are not vegan, so we knew this could be a difficult topic for them, but in the end they supported our decision.
What were the major obstacles in planning your wedding?
There were some decisions between us and our family that not everyone agreed on. It was a bit stressful, but that’s to be expected with every wedding!!! 🙂
Did you have a wedding planner help out?
Our venue, The Box House Hotel in Greenpoint, Brooklyn had a wedding planner included within our package. She was extremely helpful and supportive of our decision!
Who catered your wedding?
Although The Box House Hotel is not a vegan venue, they came up with a 100% veganized menu for us!
For appetizers they served Milanese saffron arancini, tomato compote, fried yuca chimichurri, salsa mojo, black bean tostadas, finger lime and ancho.
We had a family style first and second course with baby gem lettuces in sherry vinaigrette, black sesame tuille, snap peas and pine nuts. Broccoli rabe pesto orecchiette, meyer lemon, vegan crouton roasted heirloom tomato tart, almond tart, tomato bavarois fried Sicilian cauliflower, roasted grapes, marcona almonds, whole roasted rainbow carrots.
Our Dessert Station served apple cider donuts in apple butter and cinnamon.
Pisces Rising, an amazing baker in Brooklyn, made our wedding cake. It was a funfetti cake with vegan cream cheese icing!
Were your guests pleased/surprised by the food quality?
YES! We had many non-vegans at the wedding, including my parents. They were so impressed with the food. Some of our guests told us it was the best wedding food they’ve ever had, vegan or not! The vegans said it was a DREAM!
What did you and Jay wear?
I got my dress from Floravere, a direct-to-consumer bridal company. they were GREAT. My red shoes were from Amazon, pretty generic haha. I got my birdcage veil from Smitha Menon on Etsy. Jay wore a vintage suit/shoes he already owned.
Did you have a vegan hairstylist/make up artist?
My hair was done by my favorite Brooklyn stylist and colorist, Shannon McNair. She uses vegan hair products. I did my makeup! I used vegan Tarte + ELF lines.
Was your wedding all you wanted it to be?
It was amazing. I love that we could host a big party for all of our friends and family, and truly show how amazing a vegan lifestyle can be. It was the best night of our lives.
An incurable enthusiast and independent spirit since she could remember (her childhood heroines were Pippi Longstockings and Katharine Hepburn) Daniela Degrassi found her creative outlet as a lifestyle photographer, working mainly in Northern California. Currently splitting her time between SF Bay Area and her native Italy to continue to be her autistic sister’s primary caregiver. Vegan since 2014, she found a perfect way to carry her message of compassion while celebrating her love for the wedding industry launching The Kind Bride in February 2018.