By Daniela Degrassi


Today’s real vegan wedding takes us to one of my favorite California spots: Santa Barbara. I am enamored by the city’s Spanish style architecture diffusing a sense of relaxation and winking to a slower pace life, and the colorful majolica tiles joyfully decorating the entire town. Our bride, Alexandra, is a long acquaintance of The Kind Bride, since she was one of the first joining our Vegan Wedding Facebook Community so it is quite special for me to share her wedding story with you all! The urban style wedding of Alexandra and Andrew was captured by Eve Rox Photography, who you would have a chance to meet if attending our upcoming vegan bridal fair in the City of Angels!

Alexandra, how did you meet Andrew?

Andrew and I met at a pressed Juicery we both ended up working at, the day he came in for an interview our friend Mario told me “you’re gonna love this guy” and boy was he was right!

What made you become vegan?

I first went plant-based for selfish reasons, I had very bad acne and was already vegetarian, so my sister in law told me to cut dairy, it worked so i stuck with it. I have grown into more ethical vegan and have stayed vegan for my strong love of animals and the world. Andrew went vegan shortly after I accidentally bit into his chicken breakfast burrito through wrong labeling, probably 3 months into us dating. He’s really never looked back from then.

How did you decide to plan for a vegan wedding?

It was a no brainer for us! We eat and share vegan food with all of our family and friends often, we just had to figure out how to make it happen in the most delicious way possible.

Were your family/friends supportive? 

Absolutely! My sister in law took the brunt of the transitional period when she stopped eating animal products over a decade ago, our family has become very use to it and either they eat what we do or make a vegan version for us!

My sister in law, Sarah was a huge help to me through the entire process. She helped me with every tiny detail and ensured our wedding was an absolute dream. My sister, Ari, made a beautiful vegan charcuterie plate for my bachelorette party, which is what i would eat for all meals if could. Sarah and Ari planned my bachelorette and Ari planned out Andrew’s bachelor party. My mom was an angel and was pretty much a “Yes” woman for anything her youngest daughter could dream up. My brother both officiated and handled all the music for the evening. My sister in law’s Sarah and Shayna did all of our flowers that came out gorgeous. We are incredibly lucky to have a hands on family who will do just about anything to help out, all I have to do is ask! And as for friends i highly doubt anyone ever thought our wedding wouldn’t be vegan, since it’s what I feed them all when they come over.

Sarah took on the ‘wedding planner role’ without me having to think twice about it and she was absolutely incredible! I have already boasted about her previously. I’m forever indebted to her for being the one who thought about how long the candles would burn for, I would not have ever though that meticulously about it. She helped me with all the big and tiny details to ensure everything went flawlessly.

Were there any major obstacles in planning your wedding?

We didn’t have a lot of obstacles, we live in California so there are so many options, but once we decided on Santa Barbara we had some trouble finding the right venue in a budget we felt comfortable spending that had both delicious and beautiful vegan food. We actually ended up changing out venue two months before the wedding because I was so uncertain about the original one’s menu, and I’m so glad we made the change!

 What did you wear?

I got the poppy dress from Reformation My shoes were from Roni Kantor shoes on Etsy I had them custom made because I loved the design but wanted them without the kitten heel so I shot her a message and she let me know how we could move forward, she was an absolutely pleasure to work with. My veil was also from an Etsy shop, Mi Bridal Veil, I adored it. I had a perfect V gold necklace made by Vegan Bodega Cat and I wore my momma’s gold diamond earrings. Sarah did my make up, she did a lot of research and helped me pick the right make up, and colors. She shopped and  practiced the make up with me, I really loved my make up and I loved all the time we got to spend planning it all out.

What did your bridesmaids wear?

My lady’s wore classic chuck and an ASOS skater chiffon dress.

What did your groom and groomsmen wear?

Andrew wore a lilac three piece suit that we were able to get fit to him perfectly through a company called Hemster! They came to our home and did all the measurements then whisked away the clothing and came back again for a fitting about two weeks later. He wore high top classic converse, this was one of his personal touches for our wedding party and it came out looking great! The groom’s crew also wore classic chucks with a lilac 2 piece suit from ASOS.

Where did you get married? 

Our wedding was in the center of the restaurant Satellite SB a sweet vegetarian restaurant and wine bar in downtown Santa Barbara. It’s a quaint restaurant so all 55 of our family and friends stood surrounding us and the wedding party as my brother, Ian, who officiated read a beautiful reading, we shared our personal vows with each other, and he married us. It was special to share sweet glances with the people we love so much as I married Andrew.

Drew Cuddy, the owner of Satellite, and his amazing chef and staff handled all the food and drinks. All we Did was come in and taste it as we were deciding to make the venue change and he handled the rest from there, he even worked with a local vegan cheese maker to make this vegan cheese loving bride so happy. The wines he served were a phenomenal selection.

Our menu included a buffet service and passed appetizers of:

Cheese plate from Sproutcraft Creamery, Castelvetrano olives, Marcona almonds, a bouquet of bread, smoked mushrooms, Yoga Pants Salad Station, hearty grits cakes, bite-sized dukkahlings,  mushroom tacos, sexy toasts, tomato soup shooters, brownies and buckwheat waffles. Guests were welcomed with an aperitif drink, then a delicious bubbly wine was served after our ceremony to prepare for speeches.

Who made your wedding cake/desserts?

Caitlin from Cup My Cakez made our cake! She made a gorgeous mocha hazelnut cake with the most perfect sugar cookie topper, we gave her an engagement photo and a photo and our sweet fur baby, Tyrus. She hand painted the cookie with the three of us and that was his little piece in our wedding since he’s wasn’t in attendance.

What did you use as wedding favors?

We did some awesome truffles from Parliament Chocolate in my hometown: passion fruit, amaretto liquor, and coffee with coconut cream truffles.

Was your wedding all you wanted it to be? Please share what it meant to have a vegan wedding. 

Our wedding was everything and more we could have dreamed of!  When I started planning I hadn’t really thought of having vegan vendors as well as vegan food and clothes, but I loved having our wedding at a vegetarian restaurant and having a vegan photographer. It was such a great cherry on top to share our wedding with like minded people. This was idea brought to my attention through a blog The Tree Kisser wrote.





An incurable enthusiast and independent spirit since she could remember (her childhood heroines were Pippi Longstockings and Katharine Hepburn) Daniela Degrassi found her creative outlet as a lifestyle photographer, working mainly in Northern California. Currently splitting her time between SF Bay Area and her native Italy to continue to be her autistic sister’s primary caregiver. Vegan since 2014, she found a perfect way to carry her message of compassion while celebrating her love for the wedding industry launching The Kind Bride in February 2018.
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